Simply Be an Observer

On an average day, how many times do you feel bothered by something, whether it is big or small, logical or illogical?  If you watch yourself mindfully from the beginning of your day, it might be easy to lose count of all the situations that make you feel dissatisfied.  Whether it is waking from the wrong side of the bed or someone stepping on your toes, it is a mere sense of helplessness - a feeling of exasperation or displeasure that is beyond explanation.

A healthy dose of curiosity can be an antidote.  It is as easy as asking yourself a simple question:  What an I fearful of when I am disgruntled?  Be honest and empathetic with yourself and simply observe that fear in you.  And try not to belittle that fear by quantifying or justifying it.  Or another way to put it is, just know and be non-judgemental.  Over time, the fear will dissipate by your kind understanding and full acceptance.    

Quick Recipe for Manifestation

Ingredients:

100% Intent with Loving Kindness
100% Focus
100% Positive Feelings
100% Imagination


Method :
1. Identify the underlying belief that gives rise to the current negative feelings 
2. Understand the fear behind this belief
3. Magnify your intent to change this belief with complete focus
4. Imagine the outcome or scenario with this new belief; make it as graphic and real as possible with sounds, colours, smell or taste if relevant 
5. Generate the positive feeling(s) which will support the new belief 
6. Play this over and over again with an extra dose before you doze off 

Teflon Mind vs Velcro Mind

Our minds are like velcro - sticky and attached.  It is as if the thoughts come wrapped in hooks and barbs and stay firmly entrenched.  That leaves us with no mental space for us to live and function fully.  Sometimes, it might even spillover to other past experiences that we associate those unpleasant thoughts with and everything becomes an intricate web.  The more we try to dispel those thoughts, the more challenging it is to forget, thus adding more frustration and despair to a situation which we often leads to shame and blame.  In truth, thoughts have no master, they just arise.  Without a thinker.  Random as they are, we are not the marionettists controlling the puppet.  No matter how much we cling onto our thoughts because of emotional attachment, they are transient and come and go based on causes and conditions.  Like passing clouds.  And the more space you can create for your thoughts, the more they will float.  And the more we observe the thoughts as independent "entities", the more we can embrace the emotional reactions that accompany those thoughts.  What you will then realise with clarity is the judgement that trigger those reactions.  Not only do we need to challenge those underlying beliefs that come with the judgement, but we need to learn to shift our focus back to here and now and not get caught up in ruminative thinking.

Let external phenomena exist as phenomena, both accidental and impermanent by nature.  It is a teflon mind that we ned to cultivate.