Perfectionism and Loneliness

Some psychological findings have reported that approximately 25-30% of the general population are perfectionists.  No surprise.  Given the rapid pace of modern times and cultural changes, perfectionism among young people is rampant. This has a significant impact on their mental health as they strain compulsively towards unrealistic goals.  Failing to meet their own expectations, the immense pressure often make themselves critical of themselves and others.  Since perfectionists will always be chasing after something unattainable, they often live in fear and stress as they are vulnerable to their own perceived weaknesss and frailty.  Loneliness is a natural by product as they are constantly comparing themselves with themselves and others.  

That said, there are always two sides to the coin.  Perfectionism itself is more a personality trait than a disorder.  When not over consumed by self-defeating thoughts, perfectionism can also be a drive for success and a motivation for continuous improvement.  The expression of perfectionism is indeed a reflection of what is deep inside our core.  When we can contemplate on the root cause of perfectionism, we will see that whatever form it takes and whether it is inborn or socially prescribed, it has all to do with the acceptance of ourselves.  And the full acceptance of ourselves should never be conditional.  Life is not a dichotomy of idealisation and denigration, both towards ourselves or others.  Imperfectionism, rather, is the truth of all phenomenon.  Through such understanding, we can finally live a free and fearless life -- our birthright.