Unconditional love - a topic that is mentioned in spirituality for eons that has become a cliché. It does make people wonder whether it is a fallacy or a tried-and-true teaching. Quite honestly, most people have not received it and are certainly unable to give others unconditional love. And in a world full of criticisms and judgement, how can we give out unconditional love to others when we find ourselves so dissatisfied with them? The truth is, we always mirror back how we feel inside. If we look within, we may find out that we have been unable to, or yet to be able to give ourselves unconditional love. So how can we be on the supply side of this love equation? And how did it all begin? Because we had never received it when we were a child. And how could that happen? Because our parents did not give us unconditional love. And if we need to drill further, what could be the reason for that? Because they also did not receive unconditional love from their parents, just like us. Of course, this is in no way a reason to blame our parents (for they did not know better) or to feel pitiful for ourselves (for we are not victims).
To grow and mature as fulfilled individuals, we must come into realisation that we are inherently whole and complete. So even though we may be perceived as “inadequate”, it can in no way undermine our worthiness. We then begin to accept our mistakes and flaws as features or characteristics, and not label them as “good” or “bad”. That’s not to say we do not strive for continuous improvement, but we do not belittle or undervalue ourselves when we are short of others’ expectations. With such an awareness, we will also begin to let go of the shortcomings of others and fully accept them as worthy humans who all deserve the indistinguishable level of love and respect.
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