Sunday, August 26, 2018

Ephemerality

The Ephemerality of Life -
Transient, brief, almost effervescent in nature
The more you try to grasp, the sooner it will slip out of your hands
To the present - Adopt an all-embracing attitude
To the future - Be open and curious
Only because it is ephemeral, that we can create magic moments
For ourselves and others
Disjointed our memories may appear
What remains is a tapestry of love

Friday, August 24, 2018

The Butterfly Effect

New age spiritual advocates like to rave about oneness, which in essence means that we are all of one consciousness.  While we may understand this conceptually, it is still difficult for most people to relate to and apply it to real life.  After all, we are all distinct and separate individuals leading our own paths.  Perhaps we can try to re-define the term in a way that can make it easier to comprehend.  How about when we say that all lives are interdependent, and that one action may lead to a reaction at a distance.  The Butterfly Effect, anyone?  It is a notion that the a butterfly flapping its wings in New Mexico or Brazil can set off a case of atmospheric events, thereby causing a hurricane or tornado somewhere else in the world like China or Texas.

With pragmatism, this means that the decisions you make and the way you treat others have a direct or indirect impact on others.  The idea is not to say that a small thing can directly result in a catastrophe.  But small things, when added up together, can have non-linear influences on a bigger and more complex system.  That is, they serve as catalysts that act on other conditions.  

Although this is from a doctorate thesis in 1963 by Edward Lorenz, it is in no way an idea of novelty.  In Buddhism, there is an important and fundamental teaching called "Dependent Origination" (pratitya-samutpada), the view that all phenomenon exists dependent on other phenomena or conditions contingent with it.  This is sometimes also referred to as "dependent arising" or "interdependent arising".  If so, life is indeed an intricate web and there is no way that we as humans can absolutely be able to see through all the underlying factors that attribute to all the happenings.  All we know is that it is governed by the law of karma.  Scientifically it is explained by Newton's third law of motion: "To every action there is an equal and opposite reaction."  Perhaps this will give us a strong incentive to cultivate our spiritual practice and be mindful of our decisions.

Tuesday, August 14, 2018

Unconditional Love

Unconditional love -  a topic that is mentioned in spirituality for eons that has become a cliché.  It does make people wonder whether it is a fallacy or a tried-and-true teaching.  Quite honestly, most people have not received it and are certainly unable to give others unconditional love.  And in a world full of criticisms and judgement, how can we give out unconditional love to others when we find ourselves so dissatisfied with them?  The truth is, we always mirror back how we feel inside.  If we look within, we may find out that we have been unable to, or yet to be able to give ourselves unconditional love.  So how can we be on the supply side of this love equation?  And how did it all begin?  Because we had never received it when we were a child.  And how could that happen?   Because our parents did not give us unconditional love.  And if we need to drill further, what could be the reason for that?  Because they also did not receive unconditional love from their parents, just like us.  Of course, this is in no way a reason to blame our parents (for they did not know better) or to feel pitiful for ourselves (for we are not victims). 

To grow and mature as fulfilled individuals, we must come into realisation that we are inherently whole and complete.  So even though we may be perceived as “inadequate”,  it can in no way undermine our worthiness.  We then begin to accept our mistakes and flaws as features or characteristics, and not label them as “good” or “bad”.  That’s not to say we do not strive for continuous improvement, but we do not belittle or undervalue ourselves when we are short of others’ expectations.  With such an awareness, we will also begin to let go of the shortcomings of others and fully accept them as worthy humans who all deserve the indistinguishable level of love and respect.