We all have parents or are parents ourselves, but few can claim that they have no complaints in the relationship whichever side of the equation they are on. The nature of the relationship is intricate and full of dilemmas. It is also one which we can derive the greatest fulfilment, pain or regret. Given the vulnerability and emotional immaturity of a growing person, he or she is subject to the most profound conditioning. But the parents themselves are not to be spared, as the encounter with their own children often reopens old wounds and may possibly pour salt in them. "Should" and "should-not" are often the key words used and sadly, whenever there is blame, we also miss the opportunity to heal. The liability is never external. No matter what the behaviour of the child is, we are distressed only because there is something triggered in us - an issue not entirely dealt with and subliminal.
If one says the eyes are the mirror of the soul, I would rather say your children's eyes are the mirror of your soul.
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