Conflicting Beliefs

Most of us have had the experience when we are of two minds about something.  We want to be enjoying solitude instead of hanging out with friends, or sleeping in instead of working out.  Or we might have a dominant desire to please ourselves rather than our partners.  Such conflicting goals are examples of incongruence, and they usually originate from our own internal conflicts.  It is almost like a battle that you can never win, or lose, as a matter of fact.  However, because the psychic energy are spent on opposing directions, it is draining at an emotional level and eventually, at a physical level too.

To most people, they may not even be aware of what the conflict is and simply experience a strong feeling of stress and disharmony.  What are the causes of such incongruity?  Well, there could be one or more attributes.  Perhaps there was a significant event from the past from which you have formed a belief, or moulded your value system.  Or could you be role-modeling from different figures in your life who made the beliefs incompatible?  Do you have unspoken loyalty to your root family and its associated values, which often become "dated" with our life passages and transitions?

At the end of the way, it is about adopting a new belief system which allows us to be balanced and whole again.  The initial step?  Identify the conflicting parts.  Once each part becomes clearly defined, try to demystify the intention of each part or belief until you can find the common intention for each.  Then integrate these parts and allow them to co-exist.  Very often you will discover that your intentions are not really mutually exclusive.  For instance, sleeping in or working out may probably be derived from the same intention of nourishing your soul.  It is just a matter of prioritising on what gives you the most joy at that moment of time.