Resolution has its Latin roots from resolvere, meaning "to loosen, undo, set free". The English definition can also be defined as 'being determined or resolute".
At this juncture of the old and new years, resolution may well be one of the most popular words searched on Google. Undeniably, determination is a prerequisite for fulfilling one's new year resolution, though it is impossible to trace all the people who have really met their goals when they look back. Nor would we really know the sustainability even if they have their goals met initially. The matter of the fact is that there are so many people out there who find it challenging to turn their resolutions into reality. Perhaps the origin of the word may give us some useful pointers on this. After all, when one can truly master the meaning of the word, the suggestion is that we should loosen and undo, that is, doing less so that we can set ourselves free. But less of what, and free of what? I guess it is less of our incessant thoughts and free of attachment to only what we desire. Perhaps when you are contemplating on your new year resolution, you can reflect on how you can interpret it as "less is more".
Friday, December 30, 2016
Friday, December 23, 2016
My Wall
From wounds I had built an invisible wall
Wrapped around my heart to prevent a fall
Whence it was built I could not recall
All I knew was from feelings I ignored
Should I not tear it down and be adored
I shall lead a life I could not applaud
Now I know what it was for
I can truly connect with all
Wrapped around my heart to prevent a fall
Whence it was built I could not recall
All I knew was from feelings I ignored
Should I not tear it down and be adored
I shall lead a life I could not applaud
Now I know what it was for
I can truly connect with all
Tuesday, December 13, 2016
Wanderlust
Wanderlust means a strong desire to travel. The word originates from the German words Wandern (to hike) and Lust (Desire). Combing the two suffices together, it is translated as enjoyment of hiking although it is more commonly used when referring to enjoyment of wandering through some cultural experiences.
But in psychology, wanderlust is something else... it opens a chapter of self-discovery through unknown and unforeseen circumstances, or perhaps unfamiliar situations and cultures. One can even go as far to say that it could be a breakaway from an unfulfilled status quo. For me, it is an unplanned journey that does not have a defined destination. It may even be travels on the mental or spiritual plane, whatever that takes me from A to B. But although I have no destination in mind, I know I need to be well-equipped with the most important resource: the curiosity to let whatever that might unfold to present itself in just the way it is. Maybe this is the Tao where fluidity and spontaneity can intertwine to bring the balance and harmony from within.
But in psychology, wanderlust is something else... it opens a chapter of self-discovery through unknown and unforeseen circumstances, or perhaps unfamiliar situations and cultures. One can even go as far to say that it could be a breakaway from an unfulfilled status quo. For me, it is an unplanned journey that does not have a defined destination. It may even be travels on the mental or spiritual plane, whatever that takes me from A to B. But although I have no destination in mind, I know I need to be well-equipped with the most important resource: the curiosity to let whatever that might unfold to present itself in just the way it is. Maybe this is the Tao where fluidity and spontaneity can intertwine to bring the balance and harmony from within.
Thursday, December 8, 2016
Response vs ReACTion
Response and reaction may not be words that we use every day, but they are both words that make up who we are almost every moment of our lives. And thanks to them, they may give us the biggest clue to happiness.
Though the two words are used interchangeably, there is a remarkable difference. I would urge you to challenge the conventional understanding of the two words. The common way to define response is that it is a reaction to a question, experience, or some other type of stimulus. Reaction, on the other hand, is an act in response to something. Confusing, huh? As a living organism, we humans cannot shy away from outside stimuli, may it be physical, mental or emotional. Unless you are deficient in your sensory abilities, it is hard not to have something or someone hitting a raw nerve. However, things might turn slightly more problematic when we allow that response to become a reaction. That is to say, it is followed by us acting out. In seconds, this action is derived from an innocent thought initially, which then gives rise a feeling and eventually to the actual doing. Whether it is a resistance towards yourself or others, it will create every obstacle to stand between peace and you. The skill for us to develop is to curb it at the juncture where it is still only a response. We can do it simply by noticing and observing but not indulging and allowing it to develop into a lingering thought. And if a thought does arise, do tell yourself that it is nothing but a thought - and most likely a very deluded thought that comes and goes.
Though the two words are used interchangeably, there is a remarkable difference. I would urge you to challenge the conventional understanding of the two words. The common way to define response is that it is a reaction to a question, experience, or some other type of stimulus. Reaction, on the other hand, is an act in response to something. Confusing, huh? As a living organism, we humans cannot shy away from outside stimuli, may it be physical, mental or emotional. Unless you are deficient in your sensory abilities, it is hard not to have something or someone hitting a raw nerve. However, things might turn slightly more problematic when we allow that response to become a reaction. That is to say, it is followed by us acting out. In seconds, this action is derived from an innocent thought initially, which then gives rise a feeling and eventually to the actual doing. Whether it is a resistance towards yourself or others, it will create every obstacle to stand between peace and you. The skill for us to develop is to curb it at the juncture where it is still only a response. We can do it simply by noticing and observing but not indulging and allowing it to develop into a lingering thought. And if a thought does arise, do tell yourself that it is nothing but a thought - and most likely a very deluded thought that comes and goes.
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